Reflections and Resources for Lifelong Learning for Missionaries

Category: Character

Another Edition of Online Training for Team Leaders Completed

Online module completed.   This week, I finished reading the last assignments and forum posts in the online Team Leader Orientation module I had been facilitating in February and March.   The second edition of this course is now history, and I am very pleased to see that 12 more team or area leaders have completed all the assignments and have “graduated” from this 5-week course.   During those five weeks, each of the course participants identified their key areas of responsibility as a team leader, and what outcomes they desired to achieve in each of those key result areas by God’s grace.  They sought to describe how they would know whether they had achieved these outcomes.  These different components were assembled in an outcome-based job description for themselves, which they then submitted to their classmates for comments and critique.   The job descriptions were very well done, and I know several of the students are still revising and improving them as they discuss them with their teams and area directors.   For those interested in seeing the template for developing the job description, you can find it on the SEND U wiki.   

Dealing with the drop-out phenomena.  Facilitating a leadership training course through the Internet presents some significant challenges.  The dropout rate for distance education is generally much higher than for classroom educational settings.   It is really hard to remain motivated to complete a course consisting of a series of lectures, if you have no support from fellow classmates, and instead are surrounded by all the distractions of family and work.   I believe that a good part of the reason we endure lectures in a classroom setting is because we know we are not alone, and we can also commiserate together about our tired brains and sore backsides over coffee after class.   

Community and Character

During the last 10 days, I have been in Japan, getting to know our SEND missionaries and their ministries in this beautiful, yet spiritually unresponsive country.   Over the years, I have heard much about the challenges and discouragements faced by our church planters here, but one thing I had not realized is the challenge of creating a real sense of “authentic community” within a Japanese church.   Japanese people are very committed to their work, and with long commutes to work and long hours at work, they often are only available for meetings on Sundays.    As a people, they are also committed to preserving the forms and conforming to the expectations of their culture.   They find it difficult to leave the safety of this prescribed tradition and truly become transparent with one another.   Even believers who share a bond in Christ struggle to get back the polite forms and to allow a brother or sister to see their vulnerable side, their areas of personal need and weakness.   Our missionaries long to see believers experience deep friendships that will nurture their spiritual growth and provide support in times of discouragement and anxiety.   But how to create this sense of community is a difficult question, and I am encouraged by some of the creative methods our missionaries are trying to encourage this level of intimacy.

But creating a sense of community is not only difficult for Japanese believers.  As missionaries, we also often struggle to let down our guard and remove the masks that pretend that everything is going well in our lives and ministries.  Even within our missionary teams, we do not nearly always experience this freedom to be transparent with one another.   I think our younger missionaries find it easier to share their weaknesses and failures than those of us from the baby-boomer generation or older, and they often have higher expectations of “authentic community” within our missionary team than those of us who have been here a while.    Granted, it is not prudent or helpful to show all our dirty laundry to everyone; some boundaries in sharing are appropriate.   But for those of us who serve on the same ministry team, and are part of a covenant community, we should be able to find at least a few that we trust enough to allow them to get past our missionary masks to see into our lives – peer deeply enough to be able to help us grow.   As we share our frustrations, hurts, and failures, others can encourage, coach, suggest alternatives, maybe even help us see a discrepancy between our values and our actions.

Declare Your Intent

I have just finished reading The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything, a book  Warren Janzen (our International Director) has been talking about.   One of the points that Stephen M. R. Covey makes is that one’s intent (motives) and how that intent is perceived by others have a huge impact on how much people trust us.     While we generally judge ourselves by the motives behind our actions, we judge others by their actions, and by our assumptions about their motives.     And those assumptions are often wrong.   But nevertheless, trust is damaged if our fellow workers or teammates believe that your motive in saying what you did or doing what you did was not to help or build them up but either to promote your personal agenda or tear them down.   So Covey says,  “People often distrust us because of the conclusions they draw about what we do.  It is important for us to actively influence the conclusions others draw by ‘declaring our intent.'”

Our teammates cannot read our minds.   Particularly if they come from another culture or sub-culture, there are a myriad of reasons why they might interpret the intent of our words and actions in different ways that what we had intended.   As a team leader, you want to encourage your team to work together to accomplish something great for God’s glory, but your words of “challenge” are heard as rejection and negating of their efforts to this point.    So we must “declare our intent“; we must explain our motives rather than just expecting our teammates to understand why we said what we did.

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